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TriiStar
Baby Mook
Posts: 2
Date: November 1st
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Ok, well Im 17 (18 in a couple of months), and I've never had a boyfriend. I dont see that as a bad thing exactly, and its not as if I have never been asked out.
Thing is no matter who asks me I turn them down. I've even been lucky enough for the people I've liked to ask me out.
But it doesnt seem to make a difference if I like them or not, I always freak out or change my mind and turn them down.
I dont know why this is at all, I feel perfectly ready to be in a relationship so I know its not that.
Has anyone got any ideas?
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senojaseret
Honoured Mook
Posts: 265
Date: November 1st
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Maybe subconsciously your afraid to be in a relationship due to unknown reasons, i dont know you, but maybe you have a lack of self confidence, or are worried things would go badly, maybe from seeing other peoples relationships your subconsciously thinking bad things will happen in your relationship, such as cheating for example.
Try have a good think about it and see if you can find something in the back of your noggin thats got you worried, and try to confront it.
Hope i have helped a little :P
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8leggedfreak
Honoured Mook
Posts: 126
Date: November 1st
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All i could really think of is, face your fears. Build a relationship with someone you like, make sure you know that person really well, then just go for it. It doesnt matter how much time it takes or anything like that. I'm no expert, everyone gets hurt at some point, everyone hurts people, but if you really like someone, theres no point just leaving it, cas it might turn into something beautiful :)
I have no idea if any of that made sense, but thats what i go by anyway. :) x good luck
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frank?
Mookish Deity Most High
Posts: 1216
Date: November 2nd
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It sounds to me like it's commitment that poses a problem for you. Why don't you try just dating a person who asks you out, keep it really casual, and that way it's very easy to break off, and also easy to develop into something else. A few more dates and your cofidence will be right up :D
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orangensaft
Regular Crew
Posts: 35
Date: November 2nd
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| I'm the same. I sort of rejected (as in, he wasn't really asking me out, but still) a boy I really like a couple of days ago and I'm still not really sure why.  Maybe it's a fear of rejection? I mean, if I go out with them and then they realise what I'm really like and dump me, haha. I think that's what it is for me. That and I worry about having sex with them. I wish I could help both of us but I think I might just keep an eye on this thread instead.  |
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Calliope
Mookish Deity Most High
Posts: 1136
Date: November 3rd
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I've never been lucky enough to get asked out by a guy I like until AFTER I get over them! Seems like as soon as I stop obsessing and fall out of infatuation, here they come... Either that, or it's by some guy I couldn't see myself with in a million years. I'm trying to just ignore Euphonium outside of class and what not for a little while to make him realize he misses being around me... But he and I seem to have the same problem-
*TOO BUSY FOR OPPOSITE SEX. MUST BE A HERMIT AND WORK ON MUSIC.*
Evidently he likes me- But he's determined NOT to have a girlfriend. Bah...
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Izil
International Mook of Mystery
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Date: November 3rd
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^Aww that's sad. You two could make beautiful music together. *is shot for corny pun*
OT: Don't feel too bad about it, I didn't really get myself to accept a real offer for dating/relationships until I was 17/18 either. Perhaps it's a lack of chemistry with the guys? Not in a, oh he's so friendly and nice way, that is. Rather, on the actual biological level they just don't jive with you, and therefore you're not really interested in spending your time on them.
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candiclaus
High Mookish Shaman
Posts: 775
Date: November 3rd
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I have a friend who is at uni, and has never had a boyfriend either. Either the boys are too intimidated by her, or she doesn't like them. :( She gets very sad, so I know how you feel.
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Jellah_bean
High Mookish Shaman
Posts: 888
Date: November 3rd
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hmm maybe you have a fear of commitment? internally ofc. or a fear of intimacy this is a huge thing when you haven't been in a relationship before i know I got it.
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candiclaus
High Mookish Shaman
Posts: 775
Date: November 3rd
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That is true. I was scared of sex.
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KoOki Monster
Honoured Mook
Posts: 169
Date: November 6th
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| Calliope wrote:
*TOO BUSY FOR OPPOSITE SEX. MUST BE A HERMIT AND WORK ON MUSIC.*
Ditto, I am taking that approach as of now.
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PandaPrincess
Honoured Mook
Posts: 103
Date: November 6th
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| I think it's natural to be like that towards your first relationship, even subconciously, because you'll have new experiences that you've never had before, and perhaps the thought scares you a bit? I wouldn't worry though  I was exactly the same! I know it's easier said than done, but just try and say yes the next time the oppurtunity arises because I'm sure once you're in the relationship, with someone you feel at ease with, everything will come naturally
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