who is still hung over her ex?!


long story short,

my and my ex met,
talked for three months,
went out,
first month was amazing,
started aruging all the time,
after four months,
we broke up,
well he vbroke up with me over a text message,
hahahaha  yeah,
it was a long distane realtionship,
well 45 mins.
fmkdsfmkdmfks

but its been 3 months since we ve broken up,
idont talk to him,
it d be hard,
and i cant look at his myspace,
even harder,

how do i get over him?
mke me feel like i m not alone here.

Hi Aboveitall.

I'm sure you're not alone... although I'm not good with advice on ex's, being more into the unrequited love (in the past, thankfully) syndrome.

Find things to fill your time, don't look at his myspace, take up new hobbies....

started aruging all the time,

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Why do you get mournful over someone you used to argue with?

 

Your not alone!
I agree with avoiding his myspace! Its pure EVIL!!!
I was going to ask for some advice myself, though my situation is different to yours im still not over my ex.
You will get over it Give it time. Hang out with your mates do things to keep your mind of him.
Go out and find some one better Who you wont argue with!
I wish i had an answer for you. I'v been there before (ex before the ex im not over) after 2 years with him we started arguing all the time and broke up. Your lucky you havd distence from him I had to work with my ex everyday It was hell and made it a whole lot harder.
These things are never easy, You just have to get on with life and get over it (not meaning to sound harsh) Thats what i was told and its true.

So yeah your not alone Keep ya chin up

=]

My god I am confused. I really need advice from somebody without a biased opinion.

So here is the story...well, yeah.

A couple of days ago he told me he didnt love me anymore..we talked about it and decided to try being 'just friends' for the next week. That was Friday Night. The day before, on thursday, everything seemed so perfect. For the past couple of months he had been going really wierd in the way he acted towards me...Some days he would be all over me, and then others he would be like an annoying brother. He'd hug his girl friends and look at me, expecting me to be jealous...So yeah anyway, after this little chat I just cried the whole night. We didnt talk for the rest of the weekend. I saw my best friend, and his advice was to break up with him. Well, it was obviously more subtle, but that's what we concluded to in the end.

I was feeling better Monday morning. I was ready to go to school and face being he's friend, but when I got to shool, he had completly changed his mind! He raced up to me and was all "I love you Steph, I'm sorry it was a big mistake" blah blah blah. He wanted to hold my hand and all that jazz, but I was in a total state of confusion, and I just couldn't do it. Then he got all shirty at me...

Till about lunchtime he played the 'guilt trip' card. Trying to make me feel bad about 'neglecting' him. I decided to ignore it.

At lunch time I broke up with him..it was mature..and I told him why..he didnt say much..

So yeah, after that we pretty much didnt converse for the rest of the day. That night he sent me emails trying to get me to change my mind, and this morning when I got to school he talked with me, telling me how we were ment to be together and how he still loves me and he knows I still love him kinda thing.

I said no, he stormed off.

The thing is though, I still just wanna go up and rape him! Well, not that drastic, but there is a certain annoying LOUD part of my brain that's screaming at me to take him back..Logical Steph says no, but in still in love with him steph says Quick! Run back as fast as you can before it's too late!!!!



So, you, as the innocent now informed by-stander, what is your opinion? What should I do? Thanks for taking your time to read this, if you did.

Ok, well, you're obviously young and so is he, so, I'm afraid to say this (and I'm sorry if it sounds patronising), but you're not as mature as you think. But this is all part of the process of gaining that maturity.

For the pair of you, your emotions will be going all over the place and they will get confusing. That's natural, it gets even worse when love is involved. But the thing that's missing here is consistency. He seems to be going from one ploy to another, one emotion to another. I'm intrigued that you said that Thursday night was perfect, but the two months previous, he'd been acting weird. Why so one night out of sixty odd?

You need to move on. So does he. :)

I agree with everything Kitty said and only add that your first love isn't your last so try not to give it too many second thoughts and look forward to what comes next :)

I'm going to add my story in here, because i've been in a pretty similar situation.
we broke up a week and 3 days ago. It was weird because that was 2 days after our 7-monther, and during the day (we were both at work) he was absolutely wonderful with me. and then suddenly it was over.
Normally, he would text me he was sorry, he didn't mean it, he loves me. But i didn't get that. We actually were texting the past week too.
thursday i saw him, and we were gona give it another shot but it didn't feel right so i said no.
He's seeing a new girl now. And he's said a lot of nasty things to me (although i got an apology today, long story involving my old manager asking me about it, and i said some things [best managers in the world at my work, talk to them about anything] then talking to 'him' and he said he felt horrible and a disgrace and so on).
But i still have a lot of feelings for him. And i would probably take him back in a heartbeat.
I'm a bit of a bitch, i'll admit, and he was always telling me to be nicer. And i have changed, but too late.

So I think I can help you, even just think things through.

It sounds like this guy doesn't really know what he wants. But here is a few things i'm getting from this;

- He just wants a girlfriend. He obviously missed having someone in the time you were apart, and so wanted you back.
- He thinks an apology will make everything OK. Which it obviously doesn't. Perhaps if you explained to him why you were acting the way you are (because boy's cant take a hint), he might not have got all shirty?

On the other hand he might really want you back.
But then if he hurt you by saying he didn't love you and so on - is he worth it?
I would run like hell. As they say, there are plenty more fish in the sea.
I thought i'd never be happy again this time last week. And although, like i said, i would probably still take him back, It is getting better, and I am getting over him (albeit very slowly).

I dont know what else i can say.

hey guys, thanks. After some time to think, and your most wonderul replies, and you know, a;ll that, I've decided to try and ignore that little voice in my head and just do the logical thing (for once ;) )
Yeah, I realise that with time things will get better, it just doesnt feel like it right now. But I know it's coming! That's the main point! Umm...right? :P

On a different point, I teased my hair to hell and back this morning and it looks awesum. I just wanted to let SOMEBODY know :P Ok, I'm off to do home work. Thanks again.

(Oh by the way- good luck Starshine!(wow that sounds very Willy Wonka))

lol, thankyou =]

and yeah it does. i realised that after i typed it. coz it took me forever to think up a screen name. and there was a reason i picked what i did but i can't remember it now. and suddenly i had "good morning star shine! the earth says helloooo!" in my head. woops.

lol, love that line, love johnny depp. nice choice ;)

I have a basic rule in life, which is don't go back. Whatever happens, keep moving forward.

It might be you will end up together again but make it as part of a new thing and not just as a return to an old thing.

hmm, that's really inspiring...thanks...I'll keep that in mind, I can see it coming in handy in my life! Cheers ;)

"Don't go back. Whatever happens, keep moving forward." Hey, I love it!

OMFG Johnny Depp is SMEXXII!!!! lol
I would wish to add a story......
I was going out with the new kid at my school. I dont want to say that it was something i regret because he was my first real boyfriend. Hes a sketer, and after a month he started sitting at the skater table at my lunch. He chose the wrong ppl to sit with.....they convinced him to break up with me because i was the emo girl that they hate.......He thought they were right, even though he loved me he just wanted to be accepted. So that night he texted me and for the first time ever.........he said the L word. He said that he loved me and that he would always stick up for me. The next day he came up to me, and he was acting very different. He texted me when we were both on our buses........he sent me five text messages in a row saying 'breaking up.......'. He broke my heart........When i got to school the nxt day he acted as if nothing had happened. I wanted to be mature, so i told him about all the pain he caused me and about he should have said it to my face. He then said that "I didnt want to tell you to your face because i was afraid that you would cut me.......".......I was the only mature one in the entire situation........He had made me so mad that i slapped him.......that i wasnt fully proud of. He know has a new girlfriend.......they broke up yesterday.......because they were fighting about how he needs to stop smoking.......So he texted me today saying that he regrets breaking up with me and that he wants me back. I told him no...........

The full stop is pleased you've finished.

I advise you to hold off the rape.

Agreed. The police only muck up a situation more.

Police can make things much worse than they need to me.

(Honey Charbon@ Love your L avatar!)

Is there a whole load of posts missing from this thread? because rape was brought up and I cant see rape anywhere else on this thread...

I am also still abit very uggh about my ex :(
who i was with three years ago..
but dont tell anyone. :(

I do believe I am trying to give up on Euphonium... Well, not entirely, but just NOT trying right now. I've been lusting madly over him for a year and a half now. He knows I'm crazy about him, he likes me, but it's obvious he doesn't want to start anything... So I'm just going to kick back and enjoy my own time :)

that's pretty insensitive.

I remember my first love, and the only love. It hurt so much but time will go on and so will your heart. I know, your thinking well f that crap ass advice. BUT its true. keep your chin up and just keep truckin along.

8leggedfreak wrote:

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I am also still abit very uggh about my ex :(
who i was with three years ago..
but dont tell anyone. :(

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shhhhh, maybe we should start a secret club. staying friends with an ex sometimes works unless he turns into a dickhead like mine. i mean i still love him, but i am not harboring any secret hope that we will get back together. he is a tool, a beautiful beautiful tool, god sometimes i wish i'd never met him, other days i am totally okay. it is not that i miss the boyfriend stuff, it is that he is/was my best friend who knows more about me than anyone else in the world. he told me that he would not abandon me, but he did.

 

Ah long distance...i had and still have that current experience..My ex boyfriend and i met last summer on a breezy june afternoon.Our summer love was short ended even before the leaves fell and he lived his life in the Philippines..i wasent able to talk to him for over half a year.And i felt like crap without him , but eventually i found a careing guy..who would hold me up and care bout me..hes my world now.But truthfully speaking..we we're never really over each other and hes still as precious to me as anyone else in the world, and thats to say that i would still accept him back in a heartbeat.Time is time , and i cant stop it , and we'll meet again somewhere in time..but we've both gotta move on..and thats how life is :)..its the only way, we're human's.We never forget our first loves , but its never the end.